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Our Emotions and Values Shaping Life

Emotions and possessed values ​​are the basic elements that constitute an equally important place in an individual’s life, play a guiding role in their lives, direct their behavior and form their selves. Before addressing the relationship between these two, let’s remember briefly about each of them.

Emotion is a complex psychophysiological change in an individual’s mood caused by biochemical or environmental influences. It occurs as a reaction to internal and external events, without the influence of consciousness. Inborn, species-specific reactions are given to external stimuli or impulses in our body. These are pre-arranged. Emotions are generally internal states that make it easier for a person to adapt to life. Emotions have a directing effect in shaping behaviors such as motives and impulses. However, unlike the impulses and motives that stem from internal factors and direct human behavior, emotions generally originate from external factors and direct the person to the events and objects happening around him. A large number of emotions have been defined according to the cause and the duration of the reactions they cause, whether they are permanent or temporary, and their severity.

While each emotion may have different effects on people, it is known that an emotion will have different effects on different people. Some emotions are easier to control and thus cannot influence the person. Some emotions are difficult to control and cannot be coped. These intense feelings that cannot be suppressed can take over and start to rule it. While some emotions are accepted, adopted and supported by the society, others such as sacrifice are unacceptable greed. Another feature of the same stimulant has the ability to create different emotions in humans. It is possible for even a cute kitten to create different emotions or different degrees of emotion in different people. Or the thought that a thought might have a traffic accident in two different people preparing to set off, or the images of a traffic accident on the screen at that moment can create different emotions. All people’s emotional influences, behaviors and reactions are different and unique to the person.

Emotions are internal states that affect thoughts along with attitudes and behaviors. An inner attitude develops towards the stimulus. Behavior is shaped according to the degree of this attitude. Anxiety will naturally prevail in someone who thinks of a possible failure that he will die or get sick. On the other hand, the emergence of a feeling of happiness in a father thinking about the birth of his child or someone who receives good news is an inevitable consequence. Thinking about passing an exam or passing that exam will both create a sense of joy and pride.

Therefore, all these show that feelings, thoughts, attitudes and behaviors are intertwined in human life. From this point of view, let us state that emotions and values ​​complement each other and affect each other. Let’s take a brief look at what values ​​are and examine the relationship between values ​​and emotions. Values ​​are the criteria or standards people set to define the good, the right and the beautiful. Guiding principles are also defined as beliefs. It makes judgments about a situation or thought such as right, wrong right, wrong, good bad, immoral, and immoral, by means of these based standards and measures.

The person takes into account the values ​​that he takes as basis in his decisions and preferences. Values ​​guide people’s attitudes and behaviors. They play a huge role in shaping the choices people make throughout their lives. Values ​​are one of the most basic elements that make up the personality of people. It plays an important role in determining the attitude that people will adopt in the face of values, events and facts. The values ​​differ according to the society lived from time to time. According to the age, values ​​may emerge, gain importance or become completely dysfunctional and fall out of favor. Values ​​are valuable in that they show what and what is important to individuals.

For example, some attribute value to independence, others to freedom, others to success. Value that is very important to one individual may be insignificant to others. In addition, values ​​such as goodness and justice are generally accepted and adopted by the majority. Values ​​make individuals think about what and what is important. Like freedom, for example. Each individual has many values ​​that vary according to their importance. Value that is very important to one individual may be insignificant to others. In the formation of the values ​​of the individual, his interaction with the society he was born into usually plays a role. The event, fact, knowledge or beliefs that are accepted as useful, good and right by that society are accepted and adopted positively by the individual and lead to the formation of their values.

If an external stimulating object, event or person creates positive or negative emotions in the other person, this means that the individual has encountered and interacted with these stimuli before. The individual’s system of values ​​and emotions are closely related. Human values ​​play a decisive role in the formation of positive or negative feelings towards the event object or person. People with different values ​​will have different emotional reactions to events. This will be different in the behavior that occurs at the end of the emotional response. In other words, behavior means expressing emotions. When an emotion manifests itself as a behavior, it is understood what emotion is experienced.

From this point of view, it is seen that emotions shape our behavior, and that our values ​​have an effect on our emotions. We can say that the most determining element of a person’s attitudes and behaviors in the face of events is his values. An example of this is the feeling of pity that will arise in the face of a homeless by an individual who embraces love that respects human dignity as a value, and its transformation into a helping behavior. Take another example of an individual who has embraced honesty as a value.

When he witnesses the theft, the sense of responsibility will react and develop a behavior like trying to prevent. We know that stimulants create positive or negative pleasant or unpleasant emotions in the individual. The harmony of the individual’s values ​​with the environmental stimulus ensures that his emotions are positive. On the other hand, the emotion that emerges when encountering a stimulus opposite to the values ​​owned will be negative as expected. Another important point is that the degree of emotion and attitude created by the same stimulus in two different individuals with the same values ​​is completely individual and may differ from each other. The scale of the emotion that will develop in two individuals who have patriotic values ​​in the event that their society is exposed to a terrorist attack is variable.

Someone may develop an intense sense of grudge and anger, the other lesser feelings. In this case the developed behavior will be different. Let us consider someone who sees family unity and love as one of their important values. When this individual’s family is attacked, he will develop an extremely intense anger and then a sense of revenge and will attempt to harm the other party. On the other hand, if another individual does not see the concept of family as its value or does not see it as its most important priority, it develops a weak feeling and a simple attitude and behavior or not at all.

Emotions and values ​​are intertwined with each other and are indispensable elements that make up the self of the person who constantly interact with each other. The ability of an individual to develop healthy, measured, consistent attitudes and behaviors towards environmental stimuli, objects and other individuals throughout his life can only be achieved by the harmonious combination of these two elements.

BİRCAN YILDIRIM

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